On March 22, 2012, I attended a networking event in Brooklyn, New York featuring Lisa Nichols and other guests. She’s an energetic and powerful speaker, and I was impressed by her sincerity and commitment to helping others. Nichols has co-authored two books in the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, and participated in the mega-hit film and book The Secret. She’s the founder of Motivating the Masses and CEO of Motivating the Teen Spirit, LLC. The author originally started working with teens and later expanded her services to include adults.
In this New York Times bestseller, the author shares candid accounts of her journey as a troubled girl in East Los Angeles to successful entrepreneur, motivational speaker, coach and author using a program she created to help herself and others overcome obstacles and improve their lives.
Although she has lectured on the “Law of Attraction” after being featured in The Secret, she states that what she really practices now is the “Law of No Matter What,” a belief that all things are possible if you keep going for what you want. The key is not to give up.
This inspiring program involves building nine character “muscles” each targeting a specific area of personal and spiritual development. There’s a chapter devoted to each bounce-back muscle, and after each one is described, four processes are presented that can be used to build that particular muscle in your own life. To facilitate this process, each chapter includes “I’m Not Alone” boxes and “Inspired Action Steps”.
The 9 major bounce-back muscles that build character are the:
- understanding muscle
- faith-in-myself muscle
- take-action muscle
- I-know-like-I-know muscle
- honesty muscle
- say-yes muscle
- determination muscle
- forgiveness muscle
- highest choice muscle
The author has faced plenty of adversity and shares intimate details of the challenges she’s confronted in the areas of childhood molestation, racial discrimination, romantic relationships, domestic violence and single motherhood. By sharing her personal stories and experiences, she shows us how she applied the various bounce-back muscles to her own life. The beauty of the 9 character muscles is that some will be more relevant than others at any particular time and you can apply them as needed depending on your situation.
She cautions that just as with physical muscles, “It’s important not to let the muscles of your character get out of balance or to overwork any one at the expense of the others. When a muscle is weak, we often compensate by putting additional strain on our other muscles. This can cause problems.” The goal is to develop a strong and healthy character.
I love the following words of wisdom from the author:
“We lie to ourselves when we play small in our lives, when we play it safe by settling for less than we know we can be and have. We end up hiding our dreams and aspirations behind a mask of mediocrity, people pleasing and conformity.”
The author’s promise: “The quality of your life will change.”